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Partnering with my horses to discover a deeper connection to yourself.
Who Is This Little One? And What Are Those Markings on her Face About?
Who Is This Little One? And What Are Those Markings on her Face About?
This is me, just a few months old – a very long time ago, as you can tell by the picture. I had a difficult birth, with my mother in labor for many hours. Finally, the doctor ‘put her out’ and delivered me. That is all we know. Birth trauma has become my passion in the Somatic Experiencing work. The more I learn about how a difficult beginning affects us throughout our lives, the more I see evidence of this in my clients. Asking what they know about their birth is now a standard part of my intak
The Power of Softness - YouTube
The Power of Softness - YouTube
Great horsemen such as Mark Rashid and Josh Nichol talk about the power of softness and how we need to find softness in everything we do, not just when we ar...
Horses, Hierarchy, and Hormones
Horses, Hierarchy, and Hormones
Remember How They Made You Feel
Remember How They Made You Feel
The Shaman is Gone
The Shaman is Gone
Winter came back last night and I went out this morning to wet, heavy snow. Faraona and Diva were waiting for their breakfast but I had to look around for Ella. I found her laid out flat in the shelter and knew immediately that she would not be getting back up. She had been laying down for a long time and I could see that she had tried to get up but no longer had the strength to do so. The day that I knew was coming was finally here. I had to end her suffering. She has now gone home to the horse
One Wild and Precious Life
One Wild and Precious Life
I feel my body become more alive as I read poet Mary Oliver’s words, knowing that we only get one chance in this life, in this body, to experience all that this life has to offer. I am following my wild and precious dreams by becoming a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and working with my horses to help people heal from trauma. A question that I often ask clients as we begin our work together is “When you do feel the most like yourself?” or “When do you feel most fully alive?” How they answer t
What's Wrong with this Picture?
What's Wrong with this Picture?
Working Through Near Death Experiences
Working Through Near Death Experiences
What Do You Do When Your Horse Starts to Show Her Age?
What Do You Do When Your Horse Starts to Show Her Age?
Ella is 25 years old this year. Now that she is retired from being a show horse and lives outside year-round, she grows a lot of winter hair. As I started shedding her out today, I immediately noticed that there is little muscle left under all that hair. Ella has lost a lot of condition this winter. It broke my heart to see my girl getting old. Yet – she has been a powerful facilitator this winter with clients. She senses the nervous system of the person so deeply and, in every session, she seem
What is Congruence and What's It Got to Do with Horses
What is Congruence and What's It Got to Do with Horses
I have seen it over and over again – someone goes into the roundpen with a horse and the horse totally ignores them. The person tries everything they know to try and get the horse to connect with them, but finally they give up. At this point, the facilitator asks “What are you feeling right now?” When the person admits that they are frustrated, or angry, or sad, or whatever emotion they are trying so hard to hide, the horse comes over and connection just happens. The person experiences accept
Sole Abscess - A Metaphor for Life?
Sole Abscess - A Metaphor for Life?
The Transformation of Diva - Final (?) Update
The Transformation of Diva - Final (?) Update
After a year and a half of trauma-informed horsemanship with Diva, I finally feel that we are at a place where most of the stored trauma energy has been released from her body. In the riding, she just feels like a young horse with minimal training. She still can get excited but can quickly calm herself if I can be calm in myself. She has learned how to trust in me and in my energy. In trauma recovery terms, I can now co-regulate her nervous system with mine. We are now ready to begin the tra
Why are Emotions Important?
Why are Emotions Important?
We live in a culture that values rationality and intellect over emotionality. Many of us grew up in families where expressing certain emotions – sadness, grief, fear, for example – was discouraged or perhaps even threatened with punishment. And yet, emotions are critical for survival. They are nature’s warning system, our body’s response to a stimulus in our environment. As Daniel Goleman writes in the groundbreaking book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ, “All emotions a
Recognizing the Freeze Response - Diva Update 4
Recognizing the Freeze Response - Diva Update 4
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They Come Out the Way They Went In - Diva Update 3
They Come Out the Way They Went In - Diva Update 3
Dance Like No One is Watching
Dance Like No One is Watching
Covering All the Bases - Diva Update 2
Covering All the Bases - Diva Update 2
Three Weeks Ago: As Diva and I progress in the under-saddle work, I have noticed that she is actually getting more reactive, not less. I suspect part of that is her fear of the contact of the bit, even though I am very careful and gentle in my ask. Whatever the reason, she still starts the ride with some amount of tension in her body, and I can feel the tension under my seat, through the saddle. That tension can quickly mount to grabbing the bit and running off or, her new trick, going around
The Beginning of Connection - A Diva Update
The Beginning of Connection - A Diva Update
My first dressage coach used to say that, in order to train a horse, you needed to teach them the word first, then a sentence and finally a paragraph. What she meant was that we need to break it down into small bits. A horse needs to understand how to move away from leg pressure before you can ask them to sidepass over a log, for example. However, I am finding out that, when dealing with trauma in the body, it is necessary to break down the ‘word’ into each letter. The hyper-aroused nervous
Meet Diva
Meet Diva
Have you ever bought something and it turned out not to be what you expected? That happened to me last summer when I bought a horse for trail riding. I knew that she didn’t have much training, but did not expect what came up when I started working with her. This is the story of Diva, and how a trauma-informed approach to working with her has led to a transformation.I mention Somatic Experiencing™ in the video. I am beginning my second year of a three year training to become a Somatic Experie
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